It is difficult to let go of things that are emotional; it creates a false sense that you need them. In May I said goodbye to one of my relationships, and it has been heartbreaking to let go. That being said, I still let go and have grown more in this past month than any other prior to it. Healing from this pain has ultimately made me more capable of consistent contentment. I want to focus this post on ways I came back to myself, learned, forgave, and ideas that have helped me overcome challenges and become a more lively individual.
Fulfill a Sense Purpose
Something I was lacking in my life was a sense of purpose. Throughout this specific relationship, I had put much of my energy into another person, and most of my thoughts were consumed by them. I stopped writing, I stopped spending sacred time alone, and I stopped nourishing areas of my life that brought me contentment and empowerment. To bring more purpose back into my life, I have been enriching my journey with yoga, writing, filming videos, reading, and giving more time to the empathetic connections I have. I view my life as rich and vibrant, and I want my actions to reflect that.
Emotional Feeling Without Thought
Something my therapist once told me was to allow emotions to pass through but not feed a story that may be driving them. Emotions will inevitably come and go and I found it easier to move on quicker when I wasn’t repressing any of them or overthinking situations from the past. Talking and relating with loved ones has helped me to accept everything I feel and move past it once I was ready.
Expressing Gratitude
Harboring hatred towards another in my life has only led me to hate myself and my life. It is easier said than done to feel love around you, to find things to be grateful for, and allow those to triumph a fatalistic feeling of despair, but it can be liberating once we allow ourselves to be swept away by a favorable way of thinking; one that supports our growth. I feel that everything leading up to this present moment has enriched my subconscious and has gotten me closer to my true self. There is so much I have gained from this one “loss.” Even though I no longer have this relationship in my life, I believe it was critical to my path, and it taught me so much that ultimately has deepened this connection I have with myself. It has made me more capable of sustained contentment.
Embody Solitude
Sometimes it is unsafe to be in solitude, but I truly believe that progress happens when we are alone. Solitude gives us time to process what we’ve been given in the world and decide what we are going to take with us and leave behind. It allows us to get to know ourselves and feel fulfilled in our own company. When I enjoy my time in solitude, I enjoy my time more with others. I think we are only capable of knowing people deeply if we know ourselves deeply, and solitude supports this.
Trusting the Path
I do not think it is necessary to believe, but It helps me to recover from emotional experiences by thinking that some things intentionally happen, and in this case, I absolutely believe it. I trust my intuition beyond much else, and I am confident I have been aligned on a path that will support my truer self. This experience has brought me sadness, but I lack regrets. Overall, I know it is best for myself and the other person involved, and now I feel freer to express myself in ways I was avoiding. I am happy where I am.
